在旅途

First long haul trip with both kids to San Francisco – 3

We’ve arrived San Francisco for exactly one week! It feels like just few days. Talked to hubby, we both agreed that we actually managed to cover quite a lot activities already: been to fisherman’s wharf, saw a WW2 submarine, close view of Golden Gate Bridge, California Academy of Sciences, tram & bus ride, cruise trip around San Francisco Bay, outlets, toys&rus, American style supermarket shopping – Safeway, and drive-thru macdonald’s! I think J has a pretty good idea of what a North American life style is now – mega big supermarket with big shopping cart, fast food restaurants offer drive-thru services and unlimited refill if you dine in, it’s always sunny with blue sky!!! But why it’s always cold in the morning? He asked me this morning. (Guess it’s typical California weather) Oh and he said, many parks and playgrounds!

Next, our plan is to cover aquarium, zoo and one more museum – haven’t decided which one. Maybe try to cross Golden Gate Bridge to Sausalito. And time to meet up with friends. Then we are pretty much done with our to-do-list.

Something unexpected happened last night, after a long day trip to Gilroy, A started a fever in the middle of night. She couldn’t sleep well and waking few times to cry and complain. We all ended up getting up early with sunrise. But she seems energetic, so trying to refrain myself from giving fever medicines, we got both Tylenol and Advil for infants, just in case. Meanwhile, just giving her more water and observe.

It’s really nice to wake up to blue sky and seeing the sunrise from one side, but we both agreed that North American life is still quite boring for adults like us. It’s wonderful to spend few weeks or a month for vacation here but settling for good is another thing. We couldn’t figure out what’s missing but it makes people lethargic for sure.

After long hours of shopping at Gilroy yesterday, we popped in Applebee’s (an American family restaurant that hubby says it’s like Tsui Wah in HK, although I doubt it) for quick dinner, then he said to me, I can’t imagine if we live here and all we do is outlet shopping every week! But imagine we gonna come back here 2-3 years later with 3 kids sitting around us in this restaurant! That would be quite a scene (to us, not to the people here)! Yes, 2-3 years later, probably. We can’t afford such long journey with 3 kids in a short future for sure, what life would be like with 3 kids? Here, is actually a good place to find answer, as it’s common to see family of 3 kids around. We are just generic here, not like super-special when back in HK. It looks not as hectic as I imagine or people here are well trained for large family? I don’t know.

Life, is an on-going journey that keeps coming up with questions and looking for answers.

First long haul trip with both kids to San Francisco – 2

2nd night, shortly after I wordpressed the previous post, J walked out from bedroom with a lost look. We thought he needed to wee, so asked him if he wanted to go pee pee. He shook his head in a fussy way and pointed to his panties saying something wet. So we thought he wet the bed, then suddenly he pulled off his panties and had the gesture that he was going to pee in the chair of dining table as if it was a toilet bowl. Daddy was fast enough to pick him up to aim at the rubbish bin instead. (That reminded me it happened once back in HK after his lunch nap and he pee’ed on A’s crib.)

He looked puzzled afterwards, then nose bleeding started. Good that it happened in the kitchen not on the carpet floor. He was weary after I helped him stopped the bleeding.
An hour later, I went back to bed with him. That was 11pm.
He woke up at 4am to pee again, then couldn’t fall back to sleep.
Miss A was awaken by J at 4am and started to cry when she saw her brother leaving the room, but she’s able to fall back to sleep shortly and got up at 7am.

Next day, we asked J if he remember what happened last night. He didn’t remember the “wanting to pee in the chair" part but reckoned he had nose bleeding. We suspected he was dream walking, it was from Daddy as daddy did similar thing when he was a kid, told by my mother in law.

3rd night, we went out to china town for dinner and were in bed a bit late, around 9pm. J, again, woke up at 4am for the loop then couldn’t fall back to sleep until morning. A, slept happily till 8am.

4th night, same thing – daddy woke J up for pee pee at 4am, then he’s awake till morning since then. A slept a good 11hrs straight from 8pm to 7am.

So, the conclusion is the younger you are, the easier is for you to get rid of the jet lag. I guess.

Tonight, the 5th night, both kids asleep by 8pm. We decided to wake J for wee around 11pm and see if that would help him sleep a longer stretch and also didn’t let him nap during the day. Let’s see if he could get over it this round.

For me, as I’m sleeping with the kids the same time, it seems my jet lag is over faster than usual. And for my dear husband, we cannot tell, it’s a mystery. I think he’s iron man that not sleeping much and really has no patterns, because he has to work wherever he is, so he can sleep anytime and be awake any time. Hm…

First long haul trip with both kids to San Francisco – 1

I should be thankful that J has always been so angel, so easy-going on trips, that he made me think his sister is so troublesome. 12.5 hr flight, he slept half of the time by switching on the sleep mode himself before taking off, then watched several cartoons & munched some snacks; no fuss as always; while Alyssa was so excited that she tried to make friends with everyone who looked or didn’t look at her until she got overtired that she decided crying is the only way to fall asleep, waking the rest cabin passengers to give her mom an annoying look, she slept 4+ hrs on my shoulder with screams in between to complain the uncomfortable poses she had on me, then decided to scream to wake herself up to introduce more frowning/pity stares at me, watched some videos but more interested in walking up and down the aisle to social around with the only person who had the same interest – an one year old girl; refusing to let daddy took her, leaving me as the only one to entertain her for the rest of the flight.

Arriving SFO at 11pm local, they went to bed around 1:30am and woke up around 6ish in the morning, J slept straight through but A with episodes of waking up crying in between. She refused to sleep in her own bed (a playpen that she has been sleeping in for the past month) and insisted that she should be sleeping with her brother in the same big bed leaving daddy no room to sleep.
A refused to shower, only agreed to wash hands and face. Refused to be carried but to walk on her own to her own interested directions and refused to hold hands sometimes. A has strong characters that you need to be very good at reading her mind or be very patient to help her to communicate her thoughts out. It would save us time from hearing her screams and seeing the tantrums by simply ask her several questions repeatedly to confirm, eg. Do you want to sleep in your own bed? (No no no!) do you want to sleep in big bed with gor-gor? (Nods). Do you want a shower ? (No no no!) How about a bath? (No no no!) How about just to wash hands and face? (Nods).

Both napped for an hour in the afternoon, miss A also napped an hour in the morning on a car ride, then both slept before 8pm. Let’s see what time they will wake up tomorrow morning! Finger crossed!

旅行的意義

出外旅行,總希望天公作美。
但這次天公不合作。

老公說,雨天,有雨天的味道,不壞興致。
冒著雨,照樣沙灘泳池作樂。
J亦然。孩子,對天氣沒有聯想,想玩,怎樣天氣都照玩。
想來這也是人後天加諸給自己的枷鎖。

這樣一天,也是疲倦一身上床。
J指定爸媽各睡一邊他中間。
滿足地緊抱熊bear bear入睡。
上次和我同床是何時?我竟記不起來。
腦裡只想起日間他對各樣百般要求評論,文法句式不外乎,
但是我不喜歡這樣,我要那樣!
但是為何要這樣?但是我想要那樣!
……

我跟老公說,終於明白我是不喜歡孩子的,猶其是越來越會說話的那種。我只喜歡BB吧!
老公大笑。
很奇怪,我很認真的時候他總當我講笑,反之亦然。

這張巨床,大有空間,J睡沒多久,卻又緊緊靠過來貼著我。
哪怕我只用我的背"招呼"他。
"媽咪,媽咪……"夢囈著。

旅行,當然都想天公作美。
但不作美,也要旅行。
我們都需要在那日復一日週而復始的循環裡跳出來喘息。
我不愛越來越多自我主張的孩子,但孩子必經這階段且只有更甚,唯有見招拆招。
旅行是讓我明白,生活不是只有不斷循環,孩子已經日益長大,羽翼漸豐。
貼著我熟睡呼吸平穩的J,我當然還是愛。
下雨的布吉,我也愛。
天氣怎樣,旅行都是必須,都能樂在其中。

下一站,大阪!

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寶貝33和34個月

9月已經完結,10月也過了大半。期間我們在瑞士短住4星期,所以這個blog也一直被忽略。

33個月的J,最大變化是開始睡兒童床,我們稱之為“J的spaceship”。只是gimmick,對於J,或許spaceship可以有更多想像空間,晚上做個好夢。(??)

開始自己獨立上學。(但也只上了兩星期多,便去了瑞士“放大假”。)

其他,語言和表達能力當然繼續長進,中文明顯開始流利。喜歡唱歌和說話,甚至到了一種有時可以令你覺得煩,好像有隻鸚鵡化身在旁的感覺。

Toilet Training:peepee已經會講,失誤率已降至很低。poopoo繼續“僵持”,抗拒坐potty,甚至抗拒“釋放”他的“寶貝”。讓我甚為頭痛和不解。(但據說很多孩子有類似問題後,就變得“鴕鳥”很多。)

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34個月的J,事件簿裡最大的事情有二:去了他整個夏天不斷嘟噥的瑞士,算是夢想成真!在十一國慶當天,被瑞士藥房的藥劑師點化後,發現出了水痘。

抵達瑞士不久,J的臉上便開始長了些紅色點點,開始以為是天氣乾燥引起的過敏;然後紅色點點開始腫,像青春痘,我又以為是因為當地食物引起的“熱氣”。總之,只當作是水土不服。並沒為意。怎知有日早上,J的人中位置出現了白色膿頭的紅點,哭著說痛。於是匆匆去藥房買藥膏,藥劑師跟nana說那是水痘。(題外話,我們當時都沒弄懂是甚麼,只知道是很多孩子都有的一種病,因為不懂德文。回家查了字典,才發現那就是水痘。)全因為J沒有發燒,紅點也沒有發展到全身,除了面上,只在手臂有少量貌似被蟲咬的紅點。他也沒有抓或說癢。所以一直沒有讓我覺得那是水痘。只有輕微的感冒症狀,以為是感冒,因為全家也在感冒中。三日後,完全康復。慶幸水痘症狀非常輕微,以後也不用擔心感染,可說得福。(哈哈!)

瑞士的生活對於一直生活在香港的J,明顯是一種衝擊。周圍都是綠色的樹林草地,牛羊隨處可見,每日藍天晴空,清新空氣,很多孩子遊樂場和空地,讓他奔跑。這些在香港都是少之又少的。遇到的瑞士孩子,樣子當然沒有讓J感到奇怪,因為香港也有很多外籍孩子,只是驚訝他們說的話,是他從來沒聽過的語言。午餐不再是飯和菜或義大利麵,還有麵包,cheese,凍肉等“冷食物”,出乎意外,J很喜歡。也首次接觸chocolate milk和nutella,沒有“上癮”!

帶一個三歲不到的孩子出遠門,說辛苦,其實又比想像中要好。可能因為J本身很容易帶,也可能因為在瑞士有個家,比住酒店又方便了很多。13小時的飛行,J也沒有狀況,完全沒吵鬧,只是睡覺,醒著時看看video吃吃喝喝,也就過了。從香港到瑞士,時差的調整很容易,不到兩天已經OK。反之回來比較辛苦。

雖然這四個星期和爺爺nana一起住,J不多不少有被“寵壞”的時候,如看多了電視,吃多了糖果,但這些都是可以理解。而最大問題是,由於瑞士家裡全部是地氈,我這個有“潔癖”的媽媽,讓J又過回“尿片日子”。但是一回到香港,J又完全適應不穿片的生活了。(只在睡覺時穿,比起9月外出也穿,還進步了呢!)

poopoo繼續膠著。但情況有輕微改善,不再抗拒釋放“寶物”,可能是因為我的態度變得無所謂,讓他也比較放鬆。也願意坐坐potty,雖然不成功,但也算進步。

接著下星期,J又要回到學校,希望他可以很快適應。

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其實很喜歡外國的生活,雖然我們語言不通(在歐洲除了英國,會講英文而不會其他歐系語種等於是文盲。歐洲人也高傲冷漠。),但也樂得自在。要J在當地讀書生活基本上是不可能的想像,但就算是想想而已,也覺得開心。出門一趟,回來後發覺J又“成熟”不少,對於陌生人的搭訕和對應,也變得比以前習慣。是長大了,還是跟“浸過瑞士礦泉水”有關則不得而知。慶幸的是,旅途中天氣一直大致溫暖晴朗,讓我們的回憶更加美好。期待下一次的出行,到時候,多了一個“包袱”,不知道還是否會如此心境?

快三歲的J,媽咪真的越來越喜歡你,雖然嘴裡不敢說,心裡總想著,我怎麼這麼幸運,有個如斯乖的孩子?希望妹妹也像你。希望。

虛驚一場

3月12日 早上9點

南京,雨
濕氣裊繞,天色陰暗
中午從公司出發去機場
笑著跟同事說
希望酒店的司機開車小心
天雨路滑,很容易出意外

上車後我謹慎地扣好了安全帶

雖是說笑
但我心底其實有點怕
有了孩子就真的比以前膽小
很怕死

所以一路上我都緊張地看著路面情況
心裡祈禱一路平安

吉人天相,平安到達機場
想著很快就可以看到BB的愉快情形

3月12日 下午4點20分

飛機開始下降
窗外雲霧彌漫
心想不知道外子是否準時在機場等我
他常常遲到

離地600公尺的時候
飛機又突然上升
PA說是因為強風需要再次盤旋試降

這樣的情況
以前坐飛機試過
所以沒有特別在意

4點45分
第二次試降
離地200公尺
看到香港機場的跑道
突然感到飛機向左邊傾斜
在離地120公尺的時候
突然又上升
而這次上升的幅度猶如坐過山車
心裡開始有些小緊張
剛才如果機師沒有及時上升
我們的飛機會是怎樣觸及地面呢?
我們現在會怎麼樣呢?

PA再次廣播說是風切變
港龍空姐的國語普遍不怎樣
居然用降落失敗來形容剛才的試降
引起部分乘客不滿

5點正
飛機第三次試降
我開始祈禱
孩子才3個月
沒有媽媽怎麼辦?
不會就這樣再也看不到他?
早知道前幾晚就不該罵他爸爸
明天孩子的百日宴
難道我就無福參與?
發現自己開始一連串的想法
只跟孩子和丈夫有關

飛機很順利地降落在跑道上
可我馬上發現那不是香港機場
我們居然到了澳門

PA說機師忙碌現在才跟大家說順降澳門機場
為了添油
我想,機師需要休息一下
不然可能他的手和腳都在發抖
會影響判斷

大家開始熱鬧地談話
像已經認識了很久
也迫不及待地打電話
我跟外子報告了情況
著他先回家
誰也說不準甚麼時候可以回到香港
雖然此刻香港并不是那麼遙遠

傍晚6點45分
飛機從新起飛
僅5分鐘我們順利地降落香港國際機場
天色已黑
機艙很安靜
著陸時可以聽到大家都鬆了口氣的嘆息
PA又講話了
這次沒有人聽
大家都急著下飛機
能夠走在陸地上的感覺
前所未有的好

飛了那麼多次
從來沒有想過最壞打算
這次算是上了一課

坐上計程車
還是小心地扣好安全帶
雖然歸心如箭
但是平安就好
寧可司機開得慢點也無妨

晚上7點半

回到家
孩子已入睡
我只能站在他的小床邊
房間漆黑一片
可以看到依稀的輪廓
覺得他好像又長大了些
不禁伸手摸摸他的額角

這樣已經覺得很滿足幸福
因為突然覺得能夠活著
看到孩子丈夫
已經是最大的福氣

回想這虛驚一場
給我上了寶貴一課
珍惜所有
珍愛身邊的人
好好過每一秒

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